The Relationship between Boundaries, Action, and Success.
Here’s why you need strong boundaries in order to be successful.
You are much more likely to achieve success (to get the outcome you want) if you take action. Passive non-action will take you to an outcome, but it probably won’t be the outcome you want.
Even more effective than taking action is taking deliberate, focused action with a specific outcome in mind. Deliberate action, focused on a goal, taken consistently over time, is a killer recipe for success.
Boundaries are the separation between you, and other people. Without boundaries, you won’t be able to take deliberate, focused action because you’ll be swayed in random directions by the competing opportunities and requests that come up along the way. Saying yes to deliberate, focused action toward your goal means saying no to countless interruptions, distractions, and people with agendas that don’t fit yours. Saying yes to one thing means so no to everything else, and that’s a lot of stuff, which means a lot of saying no. Without boundaries, which give you the ability to say no, you can’t have self-control.
Success requires deliberate, focused action. Deliberate, focused action requires self-control. Self-control requires boundaries.
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August 25th, 2010 at 11:08 am
Like that! Good reminder for me today.
August 25th, 2010 at 12:25 pm
So ultimately, one needs “deliberate, focused goals”. Right? I think that is where I go wrong. I’ve always been more of a “go with the flow” kind of person.
February 18th, 2011 at 6:24 pm
I love having deliberate, focused action to reach toward goals. That is the kind of person I am. But I often have the uneasy feeling that I am not responding to the needs of those around me as I should. Some of the most effective people I know (effective in the lives of others, I mean) are those who don’t have a clue about putting boundaries between themselves and other people. They always have time. And they have touched ALOT of lives. On the other hand, they haven’t met many goals (on purpose) that I can tell. There must be a balance somewhere.